Week #2 Yosemite

I do love Yosemite. It was hot this year - in the high 80s, low 90s, but Loretta brought a fan and what a difference that made. The Housekeeping campground is about the lowest form of camping you can do at Yosemite (well, setting up your own tent would be lower) - the tents are old, the ground around the cement apron in front of each tent is pitted, the attached table is a bit wobbly, the counter can be precariously attached to the outer stockade wall, the mattresses on the beds can be a bit lumpy, ground squirrels annoy you no end but there are a few things that makes it all quite wonderful - it is right on the Merced River, it has views of Half Dome and Yosemite Falls, the lovely scent of forest trees fill the air  and, get ready, each camp site has 2 electric outlets. This makes all the difference. We brought a water heater and a French press - et voila, coffee! We could charge our iPhones and laptops, plug in the fan. Yea electricity.

This year our group's ten sites were in the inner zone of the campground (we are assigned sites right on the river every other year) but I really liked our particular site. We were close to the river, had areas with open sky views (for nighttime stargazing), were not far from the little store, were able to park right next to our tent site so unpacking was a breeze - all in all, a good site.

This year my cousin Pattie and I decided to continue with the tradition of minimalist camping we had established last year but this is not quite possible for Pattie's sister, Loretta, who joined us for the first time. She is at the other end of the spectrum - she tends to pack a lot. For example, I was a bit surprised when she brought 2 pairs of scissors on our trip to Egypt. I didn't think to bring any (but all concerns about her overpacking disappeared when my luggage was lost for the first 4 days of that trip and her amply filled bag helped supply things I was most grateful to use). So Loretta brought lots of baked goodies, 2 fans, a large cooler, kitchen supplies, tablecloths, wine and champagne and appropriate glasses  - well, what's not to love about what she brought?!?!? I became a fan.

The kitchen area of our housekeeping unit - the new floats are behind our table. 

Pattie and I learned from last year - we bought inflatable tubes on Amazon and used them to float down the river. The cost of all 3 was less than the rental price of one ride down the Merced River on a Yosemite inflatable boat. But what we most enjoyed was tying all 3 together, latching them to a tree on the shore and then reading, talking and laughing while we looked up at Half Dome and Yosemite Falls. Quite a view.

I know, not a close up, but what can you do? Our floats attached to the shore. 

The little specks on the left side of the photo are other folks floating down the river. What waited ahead of them made us (and all the people playing on the nearby beach) laugh a lot. A group of young kids, maybe 3, 4, 6 and 8 year olds, gathered on the beach. Half hid across on the opposite bank in some tall grasses, while the others stood in plain view on the shore. As a person on a raft approached, the kids appeared indifferent but, as soon as the raft hit the deepest channel (where all the floaters had to go - it was too shallow on the rest of the river bed), the kids, stationed on either side, pulled out their water guns and blasted the poor folks floating by. They were so young you just  didn't expect such mischief. Everyone laughed, including most of the surprised rafters.

Three of the mischief makers - the rest hid across the water in the grasses.

Then the most wonderful thing happened. A man, alone, spread out on his back, sunglasses perched on his nose, almost asleep, floated by - right towards the imps. We all held our breaths - what a sitting duck he made! Just as he got to the kids he surprised us all by suddenly sitting up and drenching them with his hidden water cannon. It was priceless. The kids were completely unprepared and the beach crowds applauded madly. We joined in. He got 'em. 

What a wonderful way to spend a hot sunny day on a river. 

The days slid lazily by. Pattie and Loretta climbed up to Vernal Falls - I wished them well. I had said goodby to Vernal Falls several years ago. Those of you who have been to Yosemite know what it is like to climb the steep uneven stone stairs of the Mist Trail as you get sprayed from the Falls nearby. We toured museums, rode the shuttle around the park and I read lots of sixth grade books for my new library volunteer job (I am going to be a "Book Lady" who, every other month, shares synopses of 8 books with sixth grade classes and leaves them copies of these books), visited others in our group, stared up at the evening sky - so incredibly clear - and enjoyed every single second.

Candy, Pattie, Me, Loretta

And, of course, I had an "Ahwahnee Day" when I pretend I am staying at that grand old lodge instead of in the Housekeeping Campground at the opposite end of the luxury scale. We had lunch in the restaurant, drinks at the outside bar, lounged in chairs scattered throughout the public rooms and shopped in the elegant gift shop. And then I went happily back to Housekeeping.

Oh it was all lovely as were the beautiful drives to and back. I am now on my way to Pacific Grove for week #3 of my time in California - I will be emptying the attic in my house that is now rented. What awaits me?

Week #1 An Odd Start

I left early Saturday morning for California. It was 85 miles past a McDonald's north of Ashland when I realized, with sickening horror, that I had left my purse back in the McDonald's bathroom - the purse with my money, credit cards, bank cards, medical cards, 2 checkbooks, driver's license, Triple A card, iphone, all forms of id - the works. I checked the gas gauge and knew I had enough to get back to Ashland, but not enough to get to Portland if my purse were gone - and I had no way to buy more gas. I whipped the car around, drove back over the mountain pass into Oregon while starting the prayers, "Please . . .  if I had found a purse I would have turned it in, let the same thing happen now." "Please, they can take the money, just leave my bank card and license." Then the bargaining, "If they leave a credit card, they can have the phone." And, "Why am I speeding? It has been 90 minutes since I left the purse - it has either been turned in or stripped and thrown out a car window. My getting back faster won't change anything."

It was there - and nothing had been taken. I thanked the staff at McDonald's, said another prayer in thanks to the kind person who turned it in then drove the 85 miles back over the pass and down to Shasta and then on to my cousin's in Marin - the unexpected round trip added an additional 3 hours to the usual 11 hours on the road. 14 hours, 798 miles. One long trip - but I remain grateful.

Sunday Lee took my cousin Pattie and me out in his sail boat. Michelle was home with a neck injury and we missed her sorely. Well, she was much sorer than we were. Lee sailed us out through the Alameda estuary where we slipped among huge cargo ships moving back and forth from the Oakland shipyards, sailed past the former Alameda naval shipyard (where some of the episodes of Mythbusters are filmed) and then out into the Bay.

Lee's dog, Buloot. A wonderful sailor.

We sailed under the new portion of the Bay Bridge (so fascinating from underneath) and then out into San Francisco Bay, around Treasure Island and slowly back.

We hoped to catch a glimpse of the America's Cup ships at practice but no such luck. It was, however, a simply wonderful way to spend a hot sunny day. Perfection. Then back to his place in Oakland.

The thing I like about Oakland is its unpredictability. Lee lives in the Jingletown neighborhood of Fruitvale. Parts of it are extremely dodgy, this is Oakland, after all. Lee's immediate neighborhood is, however, most interesting. It has warehouses, light industry, new condos, funky houses, industrial lofts - a mish mosh. There have been drug deals and guns fired but also lots of artists who call it home and have started the gentrification process. His loft combines both living and work spaces.

While driving toward the marina, Lee said, "There's Seppie Mayes." "Seppie Mayes?" I asked. Yep, Seppie Mayes who, I quickly learned, is someone we all know. When Seppie was young he was the stunt double for the boy in the film ET. Seppie was the one who rode the bike with ET on his handlebars. You know the poster with the boy and ET in front of the big fat moon? That's Seppie. Unfortunately he took $650 instead of a percent of the returns. Bad choice.

The rest of the week was both restful - time spent over coffee in Pattie's garden - and fascinating with visits to vineyards in Napa (yum) and the Walt Disney Museum at the Presido in San Francisco (I need to go back to fully take in all the information about his life). We finally caught a glimpse of the America's Cup ships in San Francisco Bay - they are huge.

Pattie's garden - so restful!

The Fremont Diner outside of Napa -what a combo - delicious food and a great truck.

Friday, I met a friend at Half Moon Bay for lunch (perfect clam chowder and fish tacos) then over the pass to my sister's house when my car started acting up - it missed when I pressed on the gas, steam came out from under the hood - not good. I pulled over at a rest stop, called AAA and my brother-in-law. He connected me with his mechanic where the car was towed and today, Saturday, I have a new radiator - fixed in time for Yosemite.

Today, my birthday, was a day of mixed emotions. I had breakfast with a former student, Julie, and her husband and children (all charming).  I hadn't seen her in many years and it was wonderful to catch up.  Then came the call about the death of the uncle I am named for - Uncle Don. He (and his first wife) are the last of my relatives in the generation above me. Phew.

Then came the news of the plane crash at the San Francisco airport - just a few miles from my sister's house where I am staying. Lots of fire engines streamed by. We watched the news while dressing for the wedding of an extended family member. It was a lovely wedding - perfect in every last detail - but as I type this, late in the evening, planes are flying overhead - not following the normal flight pattern  because the usual runways remain closed. I keep all 181 injured in the crash in my prayers.

It has been a most interesting 65th birthday. I send thanks to Julie for the lovely breakfast, to friends and family for all their wonderful notes (Facebook is so amazing), and to the bride and groom for a fantastic afternoon and evening.

Onwards and upwards to a week camping at Yosemite.

New Glasses

My kind optometrist took this photo.  Thanks Heidi.

I ordered new glasses. I really like them because they have an unexpected band of white around the edges - and even a little bit of white on the corners. I usually get serious frames.  Hmmmm, let's review. I have rimless glasses from those long ago hippie years, super huge frames from the late 70s, some horn-rimmed frames for that college professor look, rimless again when they came back in the late 80s, more recently, the narrow black ones that were popular a few years ago and the last pair had those frames that you can twist into all kinds of shapes and they spring back (but the lenses also continually popped out - maybe I shouldn't have twisted them so much) - so very many types of serious glasses that now that I use an OLC (old lady cart) and live in a retirement community, I felt it was time to be a bit more playful. Thus my new glasses.

After wearing them for all of one week I have begun to wonder if I could have used them while teaching. Would "teacher looks" still work if wearing playful glasses.

Well, you be the judge. I have numbered them so feel free to add more captions - just let me know which photo they match. 

#1  You dont' really think that essay is worthy of what you can do?

#2  I don't think so!

#3  Good Job!

#4  Just PUT IT DOWN, Put it down immediately!

#5  As if!

#6  Do you think I was born yesterday?  Really?!?!?!

#7 I can't believe you said that!

Thanks, dear sister-in-law, Lynne, for taking all these photos.  It was fun!

Life with my OLC

Chortles? It's laughter combined with snorts and coughs and it makes communication completely impossible. I like chortles. They are, of course, unplanned and the resulting merrymaking can create lean-on-someone-to-hold-you-up-from-laughing-so-hard conditions. It can even create chortles in the listeners. Of course the best were in elementary school because, if they happened while someone was drinking milk from those little waxed containers, the laughter could make the milk spurt out the chortlers' noses. Ah the simple joys of youth. 

My latest chortle was caused by my sister Mary when she caught sight of a new purchase standing near my front door. She glanced at it, stopped dead in her tracks, turned to me and said in a slightly accusing tone, “OMG, tell me you did NOT buy an old lady cart? Not when you have moved into a retirement community.  Really???” 

I looked over at my new sparkling bright blue purchase (see below), went into that laugh/snort/cough combo chortle and, after I recovered, was able to answer, “Never thought of it quite that way, but, yep, I guess I did.”

A typical load in my beloved OLC

I love my old lady cart, or OLC as I now call it. I use it anytime I have more than a handful to carry from my car to my apartment. It is perfection. It quickly goes up the few stairs between the parking lot and the elevator, folds down to easily fit in my trunk, stands upright waiting to be unloaded in my unit - so what not to love? My only regret is that I did not buy one years earlier. All the lost opportunities!

Here it is filled with Wesley's things for a sleepover.

Tomorrow I leave for a month in California and I already see its many uses - carting lose stuff from my car into the houses of the many friends where I am staying; the same to my camp site at Yosemite; even better, carting bags of ice from the small camp store to the coolers in my bear lockers (and  now I can carry ice for other family campers as well) – I say it again, what NOT to love?!?!?  

Okay, yes, you see little old ladies walking down a street hauling their stuff in them, and yes, some of them are homeless, but I now see all of them as wise in their ways. For a mere $28 and access to Amazon you too can have a sturdy, washable OLC of your very own. What a deal. So, yes, I have an OLC and am quite proud of myself. You may want to try one. Believe me, once you try it, you'll never  go back to an OLC-free life. That's how great they are.  

Hmmmm, maybe this is a slight exaggeration.

I am YOUNG!!!

Never, in all my life, have I felt so young. Never have I received so many comments about my age - or lack of it to be more precise. When you are the youngest person in a community, younger by a decade than the average age of 75, it causes comments.

In the first days residents would ask which parent I was visiting. Or, when I asked to join people already seated in the dining room, they wanted to know which new position I had taken on staff. Or they would stop me, when walking down a hallway, to ask if they could direct me somewhere. When I was asked at the Wellness Center (the gym area) for a copy of my medicare card, the staff member visibly gulped when I told her I didn't yet qualify.

I quickly realized that this was a unique opportunity, that this would never happen again, so why not enjoy it? I loved answering, "Oh, no, I'm a new resident. I live in E Wing" and then watch their responses. It was priceless. First, always, a bit of confusion crossed their faces, then good manners surfaced and I would receive a warm welcome with some comment like, "Oh my goodness, you are just so young."

When I entered the dining room in those first weeks I could see messages being communicated among tables, "There she is." The funniest was when a man I didn't know stopped behind my chair, pointed down to me, and said aloud in a delighted tone, "Look how young she is." Whenever I met new people, they always wanted to know why I had chosen to move in when I was so young?

Generally people like it when you agree with decisions they have already made so my reasons for moving in at the YOUNG age of 64, pleased them. A few whispered to me, in asides, that they wished they had moved in earlier - they would have been better able to enjoy the amenities and activities. It made me think of my mother who moved to Canterbury Woods in Pacific Grove at age 80 - she enjoyed it but also recognized how limited her abilities to participate were.

Now that I have been here all of 3+ months they are more playful. One staff member recently called out, "Do you have a hall pass, young lady?" A resident asked, "Are you really old enough to have a library card?" They step aside to let me pass as they hear my more rapid steps approach behind them. "Go on, young'un," they will say as I pass by. And they take advantage of me. I am now asked to hand out programs at auditorium events. Or to jump up and get things when needed. But my favorite was when I realized I had been seated at "the kid's table" at a small community dinner. I was the one asked to get up and clear plates! So very funny. When, when, when will this every happen again?

As truly charming and welcoming as everyone has been (no, one exception - a really unpleasant rude woman I sat with at dinner - and quickly realized I was grateful she existed because otherwise I would suspect I lived in Brigadoon!) I have not met as many residents as I would like because I remain so busy. Most weekdays I am either with a grandson or volunteering in Portland. I rarely have lunch here and get home just a bit before dinner. It is, as I had suspected, the same life I had before, I am just sleeping in a different unit. But this time the neighbors are quiet and absolutely charming.

They all adore Wesley (as they should!). In reality, he has 400 additional grandparents. Most days I eat breakfast in my unit but on Fridays (after Wesley has spent the night) we go down to breakfast together.  After all,  says Wesley, "It's bacon and pancake day!" They all know he is coming and greet him when we walk in - residents and wait staff alike. His favorite table is right against one of the windows that look down on the Willamette River. It has become "our table." Last week he graduated from preschool (he enters pre-Kindergarten next year in the same school. To keep things straight, he graduated from their child care section last year - fine gradations here) and was awarded a "gold" medal on a ribbon to wear around his neck and a balloon. He insisted that he wear the medal and bring the balloon to breakfast the next morning. He wanted everyone to see and they responded perfectly - congratulating him quite seriously as he smiled proudly. When he brings a stuffed animal they ask how it is doing. When he fell face first on the dining room carpet they asked if he was okay (and then whispered to me that if any one of them had taken such a tumble, they would be down for the count!).

You know, I think I am going to be a bit annoyed when someone younger than me moves in.

Favorite bench where I sit and read at my new home

Gardening - Again

I thought gardening was over. Forty-one years ago I dug my first garden in the backyard of my husband's best man's mother's garden. Follow that? We moved to Connecticut right after our wedding and Mrs. Hinde was an incredibly generous woman who shared many things with me - her love of garage sales ("tag sales" in New England), redecorating (let's see - she lived in 4 different houses in the 16 years we lived in Connecticut - all charming historic homes that were much fun to explore) but most of all, gardening.  She had a large garden in her house in Westport (where Martha, THAT Martha, also has a house and garden) and rototilled a space twice as big as she needed so that I could "experience the joy of a vegetable garden."  I wasn't so sure about that "joy."

You see, my history with gardening was not good. I was raised in a typical 1950s household - we 3 girls did the inside work, our 2 brothers did the work outside . . .  except for one horrid weekend each spring. We sensed its approach when we were told to not make any plans for the weekend. UUUUUUURRRRGGGGHHHH. Saturday morning Mom would throw open our bedroom doors, flip on the lights and call out in a hideously cheerful voice, "Good morning!  Rise and Shine!" The drill sergeant was on the move and there was no escape.

By spring each year our garden was completely overgrown. The hedge between our house and the neighbor's was probably 15 feet high. Ivy had worked its way over fences and sheds, bushes had grown into each other and were each chock full of leaves fallen from overhanging trees. Weeds grew with abandon in the beds and in the gravel walkways around the garden. It was a mess.

Mom took the best job - she directed. She was so good at it that her nickname in college was "Butch."They had quickly caught on to her skill set. Two of us were sent to deal with the hedge (I still remember clambering up the fence to reach the tallest branches then bending them down so a sibling could hack 'em off). Others were set to weeding, removing sludge from the fish pond and pulling out ivy and rotting leaves. Mom attacked the bushes and fruit trees. She hacked, whacked and slaughtered. Around her grew piles of debris which we dragged off to toss into the back of a truck. It took all weekend and was absolutely hideous. It was at this time that I learned an important skill - work avoidance. I would sweetly volunteer to go into the house to make lemonade. It was a brilliant maneuver. I was left alone in the kitchen to wander SLOWLY about gathering pitcher, glasses, tray, etc. It was cans of frozen lemonade, mind you, but I could drag that process out for 45 minutes - minutes spent blissfully out of dirt, grime and thorns.

Ah, horrific memories.

So fast forward to Connecticut - a vegetable garden? By choice? Who knew that I would love it and from that year forward we always had one. I remember digging out the garden at our first little house on a lake in the Connecticut countryside - I couldn't believe how many rocks we removed from that space. Yes, glaciers had indeed passed over New England.





Here is Stephanie, maybe 3 years old, standing by that garden.






Below is the photo I call "Abbudanza" - the abundance of the onion crop at the end of the season.

When we moved back to California in 1987 gardening changed. Pacific Grove has a gentle climate - rarely hot, rarely cold - but not warm enough for a lot of veggies. Instead I grew herbs (until I noticed my dog Murphy peeing on them). And I grew flowers - masses of them. In beds and in window boxes that Lee and Gary built.  I loved it.

The back door

Back Yard

Side deck

Entry

After Gary died I moved to the house on Bentley Street and gardening changed once again. A corner lot, closer to the ocean's salt air, offers challenges. The back yard was tiny - I scattered little gardens around.

One corner of the back yard

The side deck had lots of sun (when sun chose to show itself in Pacific Grove) so that is where I concentrated pots of flowers.

The one thing I never grew were roses - Pacific Grove does not have the right weather. But not so Portland. Here they are everywhere. After all, we are the Rose City.

What to do? What to do? Is it time to have a rose garden or time to hang up my trowel? My community offers plenty of garden space. I can own a patch in which I can plant whatever I want or I can take over a patch in which roses already grow. Hmmmm.

My first thought was to pack it all in - I have done my bit for beautifying the earth - but then spring came and the scent of fresh turned dirt made me itch to get my hands in the soil.

So I set out to discover  what it takes to get a rose patch here in my new home. When I heard the level of commitment I had to laugh. These are rules:


1. You put in a request and are told which plots are available. You pick one.
2. They put a little plaque with your name on it so the world knows these are YOUR roses.
3. If you don't like the roses currently growing you can buy others and the staff gardeners will pull up your old ones, rototill and plant the new ones (THIS I liked!)
4. You weed and water.
5. All the roses are yours to pick - or share with others.
6. If you don't have a rose garden there are rows of plants that are "open cut" - help yourself (well, only three roses at a time, please).

What do do? What to do? While waffling a new friend mentioned that she was having trouble weeding. Her legs weren't quite strong enough. I like to weed (unless it is in clay then never mind) - it is mindless, there is immediate gratification, and it is lovely to sit in dirt while you smell plants around you. When I offered to weed her plot she told me to pick as many of her roses as I want. Perfection. I can now cut roses from her plants PLUS add 3 roses a day from the open cut. Glory be.

I then discovered that if you have a small unit and a small table you don't have a lot of space for large vases of roses - 3 - 5 are just about perfect.

Ah, life is sweet! It is good to have my hands back in the dirt. Next year I will get my own patch but for right now weeding and picking is just fine.

Costco and Me

What I remember most about my first visit to Costco way back when was the canoe for sale hanging from the ceiling of the warehouse. This, I realized, is not your typical grocery store. I also remember thinking I would not want to be inside if an earthquake hit. Interestingly enough, years later, I WAS shopping at our local Costco when a wee earthquake happened and am happy to report that all pallets stayed nicely in place.

Over the years I have filled many many carts - both the normal and pallet sizes - with Costco products and have been happy. In fact, I have grown to love Costco. Not quite like my older sister and my cousin who are passionate about it but quietly delighted that it is in my neighborhood. It is easy, on the most part inexpensive, and the Econ teacher in me is delighted with their corporate culture. You know they treat employees well by the fact that you get to know many of them by name - they don't leave.

I was pleased to discover that the local Costco here in Portland was even closer than the one in Pacific Grove - only about 3 miles away. I shop there probably once a month - the usual toilet paper, paper towels, garbage bags, cleaning products, whole chickens, cheese, frozen stuff, etc. I also found things for my duplex - my favorite being a storage unit for my upstairs attic room.

 Here it is in my new unit

I cantilevered that really heavy package from the cart into my car (first removing Wesley's child seat, then wedging the package so that the last little bit hung out the open window), dragged it from the car onto the front porch then into my living room, took the package apart and lugged the individual pieces up to the attic where I assembled it - along with 2 glasses of wine to get me through the process - and loved it.  Thank you, Costco.

I had lots of space in the basement so storage was no problem - I simply opened the basement door and tossed the large non-breakable stuff down where it all landed in a pile at the foot of the steep steps. On laundry day I would move it all to the basement's Costco corner.  Easy peasy.

But everything changed when I moved into my new 421-square foot studio. That wonderful Costco storage unit came with me but it soon became apparent that I no longer had space for all the other Costco stuff. Where do you put 30 rolls of toilet paper, 12 rolls of paper towels, 36 eggs, gallon-size jugs of detergent, 6 tubes of toothpaste, 4 frozen chickens???? Not in my small unit.

It was with shock that I recognized my Costco days are numbered. There just isn't room. But I also now know exactly how long Costco-sized products last. I know this because I know my arrival date (3 months and 10 day ago) and know that I opened many new packages the day I moved in. So, here goes - one large tube of toothpaste, when used by one person, lasts 3 months. I am 3/4 of the way through the original paper towel roll I unwrapped the day I moved in (shows how little cooking I am doing), just started a new deoderant (and yes, I do use it everyday, thank you very much!), and, based on my new projected use of dryer sheets, my large double package will last 5 years!

I also realize how much more space I will have when I finally use up all my Costco multiples - I think I still have 8 sticks of deoderant, 4 large tubes of toothpaste, many quart size containers of laundry detergent (the original size packages would not fit into my shelves so I poured them into empty plastic containers), lots of dental floss, 10 bars of soap, 6 boxes of kleenex, and so on.

But no Costco?  It is almost unthinkable and yet I just can't store the stuff. But oh my goodness. No Costco?  Really? I called last week and found out that my membership cycle stops at the end of this month. I told them to not renew. I now have 21 days left. 21 days. I may go hang out and walk the aisles, remembering. Ah yes, that wonderful cheese (in a 3 pound package that would now fill my small refrigerator), the 36-can package of Diet Coke (where would I store all those cans?), the large box of crackers that Wesley loves (really? In my small cabinets?). Ah, the reality of my new living space. This is going to be a bit traumatic.

Oh wait . . .  I just remembered. Stephanie has a Costco card! I know she will let me come along and add things to her cart. Of course she will. I won't have to go cold turkey after all. When so much is changing it is good that at least one thing can change a bit more slowly. Phew!

Breathing Space

It is over and I can't believe it. What, you may ask? May, of course. What a month. Stephanie returned to work and I stepped in to care for wee Finn - and adored every single second. I also had visitors (enjoyed each one), figured out Medicare choices (what a lot of information to slog through but the clock is ticking on my quickly approaching 65th birthday), continued to adjust to my new life at the retirement community and found time to celebrate spring in Portland. So many distractions and all were enticing.

First and foremost - the grandsons, the perfect grandsons:

Wesley appears to adore his baby brother. I watch Stephanie and Dan adjust to a second child and am amazed at the grace and patience they exhibit as they respond to the circus whirling around them. Oh I remember but do not think I did as well as they do.

Today was a BIG day, a milestone - Finn's first day at childcare. He will go with Wesley two days a week; the other three he remains with me. Wesley led Stephanie (with Finn in arms) into the infant room at childcare and then he stayed for circle time with Finn. I do not know what infants do in circle time but Wesley enjoyed himself regardless. When I picked Wesley up this afternoon he told me that he went over to check on Finn before he himself took his nap. He wanted to make sure everything was going well. It was.

Yesterday Stephanie and Dan invited me along for a picnic at a park prior to Wesley's 30-minute soccer class. I drove Wesley over while Finn rode with Steph and Dan. As Wesley climbed into my car he turned back and called out, "See you at the park, Finn!" I am enjoying my role as witness to family evolution.

Wesley and I still manage to have time together. It is no longer 2 hours a day (after preschool), 5 days a week. It is, instead, the two afternoons I am not babysitting Finn. I bring him back to my apartment and we find lots to do. Today we went to the art studio to make presents for some family members - but, ssshhhh, I can't tell more. Then back to my apartment for a snack and some book reading. Lovely lovely lovely. We manage to have a weekly sleepover as well. Sleeping with an almost 4-year old is an experience, however. He wants to sleep in my bed and it would be fine except - well just look:

I push his sleepy body away a bit, slide in beside him and then, in minutes, he is back hogging the space. It is AMAZING how a little body can control so much of a double bed! I never sleep well but it is worth every sleepless second to have him with me.

I have really missed writing these entries so get ready - they are going to start pouring out. Lots to share.

Love you all.

421 Square Feet

Yes, I know - I said I would write more frequently but, oh my goodness, I have been busy, delightfully busy. The best 2 hours of each day are spent rocking Finn while chatting with Stephanie or giving her time to take a nap or catch up on tasks. Thankfully Finn is sleepy between 1 - 3 p.m. and I am RIGHT THERE to take him, warm and soft, into my arms. Yes, we occasionally discuss world events (he has not yet, however, expressed opinions) but most of the time I sing softly while I rock - and am in heaven. Absolute heaven.

And, yes, I am adjusting to life at my new place. It has been an easier adjustment than I thought. The biggest blessing is my wee unit that I simply love. So here it is - life in 421 square feet. I know, impossible you might say, but look at how very efficient and complete it is.

Oh - background - I bought it furnished. 2 residents here designed the room (it was just an empty square), a team of workers on staff built it, then the 2 residents furnished it. I brought 4 pieces of furniture (and one rug) to replace things they had provided, otherwise it is as I first saw it. It still took 4 carloads of stuff to bring all my clothes, kitchen stuff, books, art, etc. but I certainly had an easier move-in than most residents.

This is the view into the bedroom portion of the unit. The bed is a Murphy bed surrounded by bookshelves.

The bookshelf to the right has a pull-out shelf for my laptop. The cabinets above and below hold my office stuff and files. The bookcase to the left has all the books I haven't yet read. The only good thing I can say is that it contains less than half the books I hadn't read that I brought with me to Portland 18 months ago. Note Wesley's heart (Valentine's Day) and rocket (Christmas) that moved from my old kitchen window to my new unit's window.

Here is a close-up of the desk area.  Wesley and I greet the first day of each new month by selecting a set of my lights to hang around my bookcase - can you see them?  This month Wesley thought the yellow chili pepper lights were appropriate. Easter? Spring? Who knows.  They work for him.

At first I wasn't sure how the tiny desk would function given that I need space to lay out materials, etc.  Then I noted the bed right next to me - a perfect surface.

This is why I love the Murphy bed (which is very comfortable. I sleep well).  When I put it up I have LOTS of room to play with Wesley. We roll up the rug and can make a very large railroad display with room for his little airport, gas station, repair facility (and all the other places we create out of blocks, boxes etc). He can run the train long distances over this open space.  My favorite comment of his when he first walked in and saw the bed up, "Gramma, you have a big refrigerator!"

This is the view from the bedroom area - I brought the storage unit to the left (from Costco - who knew, when I bought it a year ago, it would fit so perfectly into this space and hold all my sewing stuff, art supplies and Wesley's toys), the rug and the coffee table (an English cobbler's bench from my grandmother).  My TV is in the dark space in the bookshelf.  The little table under the window is very clever - it has 2 leaves that pull out to the front and back. It worked really well for a sewing project I undertook soon after arriving. It looks out to the Willamette River and it is where I eat breakfast every morning.

The little sofa is also clever - the 2 residents who designed the unit chose well. It is a futon. I drop one side when I want to stretch out to watch TV. If I drop both sides it is a single bed for sleepovers with Wesley (and Finn in the future).

Here is my tiny kitchen. At first I was concerned about the small size of the refrigerator (think college dorm) but I rarely eat any meal here other than breakfast and it is more than adequate to hold milk for my cereal! The cupboards provide enough storage for the kitchen things I brought but I now wonder how often I will actually use them. Oops! I just realized one of the cupboards for storing canned food is slightly open in the photo. At first I was dismayed with this style of shelf - I am used to broad open spaces for cupboards and these slide out with narrow shelves on which you place canned goods, etc. However I now really like them - I can see and reach everything easily.

You can see the back of my grandmother's high chair which I also brought with me.

Here is the shelf opposite the kitchen where I store dishes, etc.  It functions well.

And, finally, this is the last portion of the unit - the closet (very deep - it shares space with  the bathroom and drawers/shelves in the bedroom. I could not photograph the bathroom with any success - but the usual tub, toilet, sink and storage cabinets). I brought the cabinet next to the closet with me - I bought it in China and dearly love it.  So glad it fit in.

So that's it - 421 well-designed square feet. What I like about the living room area is that I can easily move the shelf with kitchen stuff and the futon if I want more space.  All very functional. Amazingly I have some empty shelves and drawers still available for the growth of stuff - and we know how that happens. But, for the moment, I am more than content.

Perfect Grandson #2 Finn!!!

I know, I know, I know . . . it is almost 2 months since I have written but all I can offer for an excuse is that I have fallen into bed, completely exhausted, almost every night since that last entry.  Yep, lousy excuse but a few things have been happening in my life.

Let's see:

1. A precious new grandson entered the world on January 28.
2. Sorting and packing all my belongings
3. Moving myself into the nearby retirement community
4. Holding an estate sale to get rid of all excess stuff
5. Sorting and unpacking everything away into my new tiny place

And, guess what, although it has all been exhausting it has also been exhilarating.  So let's start with the most thrilling of all - my new grandson.

Finn 

Look at him - is he not perfect? Look how his sweet little head fits right on my shoulder. I don't know of anything more wonderful than the soft head of a newborn snuggled into that space between your cheek and shoulder. It makes me weak at the knees just to think about it. Finn is 100% cuddly. I love holding him, smelling him, watching him breathe in and out. He is, as are all newborns, quite simply a miracle dropped into our lives.

He was due February 1 but came 4 days early, on Jan 28. His arrival matched the information in a fortune cookie I received at a Chinese restaurant in California on November 28th - the day I flew back to Oregon. It said, "Remember this date. Two months from today something wonderful will happen."  And what can be more wonderful than a new baby? I had no idea, however, of the power of writers in fortune-cookie factories!

I spent the days while Stephanie, Dan and Finn were in the hospital going back and forth between visiting Finn and taking care of Wesley - and loved every second. Thus far, Wesley has seemed enchanted with Finn. We all hold our breath a bit to see when reality hits that someone has usurped his position as the only child. My favorite Wesley behavior? When Wesley sits next to Finn who is rocking in his infant swing and "reads" a book to his baby brother.

Stephanie is now home for three months on maternity leave. I adjusted the date of my move to the retirement community to two weeks after Finn's birth to make it easier on the family but still regret time lost from holding Finn for something as prosaic as moving boxes. Next week I will be back to my usual schedule and plan to have serious Finn-holding time every day, if at all possible. Luckily, Stephanie, Dan and Wesley are good about sharing Finn with me.

So I am a most delighted grandmother and feel quite blessed.

Thank you everyone who has written asking if everything is okay because I have been incommunicado for the past 2 months. I was too tired to even write back! However, I promise the dry spell is over and I look forward to filling you in on all the other changes in my life. Entries will start flowing once again.